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An Angel’s Wisdom

Posted by zaphriel on October 23, 2005

As I prepare for a small hiatus here, I have been trying to think of a post that I could put together that would be relevant throughout the time that I am gone, since it will define this blog for at least a week. In doing so I had to ask myself, what type of blog is this? At first I would say it was a politically slanted personal account of my history. Back when it was called “Birth of a Neo-con” I was attempting to tell what I thought was a unique story. A story of a poor boy that grew up in a heavily Democratic family, and who eventually became a conservative and generally successful family man.

But way too quickly in my own concise style, I told that story, and most of the several sub stories around it. Then is simply evolved into a Political blog. But that grew tiresome during the Mother Sheehan affair, so I started to get more diversified and personal again. I introduces Fun Friday, and the occasional SOS Saturday. So now, I guess to answer my own question, this web log is simply a reflection of me. No longer a statement of a character, but the expression of the man behind the mask. A look into Matthew’s life, through the eyes of an unforgettable character. (Someone once asked me in a chat room, “Are you the Zaphriel of Zaphriel’s Blog?” and before I could answer they said, “Of course, like that’s a common name.”). So Zaphriel you all call me, and I like it, as it is much more memorable than Matthew.

So in the spirit of this being a blog about me, I think I shall impart the one solid bit of wisdom I have come across during my adventure through life. This was not given to me by any Psychologist, or Doctor, nor is it taught as far as I know. I warn you also that I am NOT A DOCTOR or mental health professional of any kind. This is just street knowledge I have picked up along the way, and so far I have found it to be iron clad.

MEN ARE STUPID,
AND WOMEN ARE CRAZY!!!

This very fact saved my marriage over 3 years ago. Now before you go haywire, let me explain. This truth is universal only as it is perceived by the opposite sex. Men, know that every woman thinks you are stupid, you are a veritable idiot, a man-child. You may be a brilliant physicist, but as far as knowing what she wants or needs you are absolutely clueless. Look at things that way, and her every action is now explainable. But this truth cuts both ways,

Ladies. Know that your man is stupid, and accept that he will always be stupid. Sorry, you are not going to be able to change him in any meaningful way. Trying will only lead to failure and frustration. Acceptance and compensation work much better. You know he’s stupid, so why do you think he can figure out what you are feeling? Doesn’t he see the signs? NO, he doesn’t, not because he doesn’t care, but because he is generally incapable. So rather than wait for him to figure it out, tell him…directly, don’t beat around the bush, it doesn’t work. Are you mad? Tell him. Can he fix it? Tell him. Do you want him to actually go away? Tell him.

Double edged sword here guys, being stupid is not an excuse, only an explanation. Effort is required on your part. However keep in mind that she is CRAZY. The usual laws of the universe do not apply, her laws more resemble quantum physics than Newtonian law. Doing the same thing two different times will not always produce the same result. Everything she does, EVERYTHING SHE DOES, has a feeling attached to it. And depending on many variables, these feelings about certain things will change from time to time. Accept it and compensate for it. If she has a problem, ask her directly if she wants you to solve it. Don’t assume that because she wanted help before that she wants it now, ASK HER. If she bites your head off, don’t assume it’s what you just did that caused it, ASK HER. Or hide…

And ladies, remember when you think he’s being stupid by asking all the time, remember, from his point of view, YOU ARE CRAZY. Remember he is stupid; you need to tell him what is going on.

How did this save my marriage you ask, well I will tell the long version of that at a later time, but suffice it to say that My wife and I both came to the conclusion that I was stupid, and she was crazy, and we both accepted those facts, and compensated for them. I realize I am not the root of all of her problems, and so does she, and vice versa. We communicate allot more, mostly me asking her if I did something, or if I can do something. I also no longer assume that she is mad at me, so I don’t act like I did something wrong, and then make her wonder what I did.

So I hope this little tidbit of knowledge helps someone out there. It might help you if your having trouble, try it, if it works great, if not, you were gonna break up anyway right?

Please leave me you comments relating any related wisdom you may have discovered. I wanna know. Or just tell me what you think of my little pearl of wisdom. So far it has worked for me, but I truly want to know your opinions, and maybe start a discussion about this. So Please LEAVE COMMENTS.

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Intelligent Design v Evolution: The Trial Continues

Posted by Mark on October 23, 2005

It’s hard to find info on this trial, and harder to still to find anything from the MSM that is in any way fair or balanced. Like abortion, gay rights, gun control, and multiple other issues, journalists have a bias toward evolution, and are working hard to make sure evolution wins this debate. This article by Peter Dezikes is a perfect example.

But, do you need more proof of the bias, and the agenda?
Just scan the headlines on the trial pulled from a Google search.

For a great rundown on the trial and its participants, go to Wikipedia.

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Intelligent Design v Evolution: The Trial Continues

Posted by Mark on October 23, 2005

It’s hard to find info on this trial, and harder to still to find anything from the MSM that is in any way fair or balanced. Like abortion, gay rights, gun control, and multiple other issues, journalists have a bias toward evolution, and are working hard to make sure evolution wins this debate. This article by Peter Dezikes is a perfect example.

But, do you need more proof of the bias, and the agenda?
Just scan the headlines on the trial pulled from a Google search.

For a great rundown on the trial and its participants, go to Wikipedia.

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